When We Becomes Me
"This precious group allowed me to tell my story and cry my heart out.
They understood and felt each other's pain and loss"
The Journey into a New Year... Alone
If you are here reading this today, I will assume that you are struggling. I came here, years ago for that very same reason. There are no shortcuts in mourning but as you press on there is hope.
Grant yourself grace and time, as much time as you need. For in the years ahead you be redefining who you are. I married at 18. I became a widow at 51. I had no idea who I was if I wasn't Lenny & Sherry. Some days I am still not sure.
My future plans all had been made as part of a team of 2. My dreams were 'our' dreams. So, when Lenny passed it was as if everything left with him. I had no clue what lie before me. What tomorrow held. It all just looked overwhelming.
To be honest I didn't initially set off looking for me OR making new plans. I did life and then I sat with my tears in the silence. I relived every memory my mind could lay hold of in an attempt to hold on to the man I didn't want to loose. I sat in the quietness and spoke with him as if he was still seated beside me on the couch or lying next to me in bed.
That sort of thing is normal... it is all part of a slow process of healing. Don't expect to reboot a week after the memorial service. Don't be flustered when the tears flow randomly 6 months in. On his birthday. Your wedding anniversary.
As you step forward into 2026 just remember that you are traversing through the "valley of the shadow of death" and God is with you. Lean into Him. Trust Him. You will discover who you are now. You will find purpose in the future that lies ahead. And slowly but surely your eyes will adjust to looking forward instead of to the past.
All you need is grace.
Grant your broken heart grace and time.
One Day Gatherings & Retreats
We believe that sharing of our life stories with each other is one of the first steps in healing. This organization does not offer professional counseling, but instead, offers the support of women who share common grief struggles through a variety of events.
Who We Are
When We Becomes Me is a non-denominational, faith-based organization. Our desire is to help women of all ages, who have lost their husbands, find hope and healing after loss.
We gather and listen, relating though our own stories and struggles and supporting each other as we each rise to 'press forward' alone.
More information about how When We Becomes Me came about and the team can be found below.
Support When We Becomes Me
Your support and contributions will enable us to assist widows who attend our retreats.
If you would like to mail a donation, you can send it to:
When We Becomes Me, 600 W Race St, Searcy, AR 72143
